Wes, my W divorced me over 4 months ago and I have yet to write her a note like that. I want to, but I feel it would push her further away...from what I guess is the answer in that we are divorced and dark from each other...so what have I got to lose? I love her deeply and as much as anything, I really regret that I will never be able to express to her just how profoundly I love her...it would take the rest of our lives together for me to accomplish that. A great part of loving someone for me is showing them how much I love them. I did that plenty with my xw, but it boiled down to her words..."you don't love my kids enough." What do you do with that? I was supposed to just let her 20 year old daughter continue with the passive/aggressive behavior towards me and my sons and love her anyway? I guess so, but I failed. I couldn't keep that up as well as doing more to support her financially than anyone else including her mother and her father. Blehhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!
Hang in there, take care of yourself so you can take care of your kids. I hear that eventually, we can all get well emotionally with regard to these situations!
