I can completely see where you are coming from. In my case it was more that neither of us could say anything to the other spouse's kids. But we both to a fair share did discipline. It was just felt I was too mean to hers. She had a point and I've worked hard to be more laid back about her kids.
As far as:
Quote: The anger thing is yours alone to work on
Before I got married to her anger was not a big thing for me and even in the beginning it wasn't. As we got along more poorly and I was depressed I kept getting more angry. Actually since the bomb I have got reading material, etc, and went on meds and I actually haven't had anything that resembled the old angry outbursts since she left. I feel for the most part I have my emotions under control. BUT (big but here), I have the escape of being alone and don't have to keep anger at bay all day....so who knows how I would fair if back together. But my feeling is "pretty good" because I haven't had any anger issues outside of the marriage either. I've felt pretty happy and laidback again...more in line with the person I was before. I might have needed this separation as much as her to get myself back. I also don't believe there are "angry people", just people that have learned to handle their frustrations, fears, insecurities, unhappiness, etc with anger as their protective mechanism. Since it's just learned it can be unlearned or redirected to more useful ways of handling situations. Just my .02 on anger.
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