Some possible explanations for her behavior: - She's afraid of the responsibility of decision-making now that you're not there to be blamed. - She's over-indulging them out of guilt. - She doesn't care right now - is distracted, depressed, ....
It sounds like one of those "I'll cross that bridge when I come to it" issues. In all likelihood, their pushing for some decent boundaries and her frustration with them/this will come to a head and lead to change before you two reunite.
