Ever have one of those days where you think..."if we actually get back together what are we going to do about 'X' problem?"
I'm having one of those today. My step-kids increasingly rule the roost at my W place. They are increasingly disrespectful of her and also throw fits of varying degrees to get their way. My s-son continues to sleep with his mom and so most nights basically chooses to go back over so he can sleep in her bed...before that he was fine with sleeping over. Last night my boys were with me and so was he. Usually he's fine with sleeping over on those occasions, but now he suddenly has a problem with it. Lastly, it seems the kids get the decision in things. For example when I've told my W about activities that my kids are doing and said "you're welcome to go", she often says "I'll see if the kids want to go". The answer if it involves something that isn't directly related to their fun is invariably "NO". Last night my step-son was coming over and when they got there I asked my W if she wanted me to throw a burger on the grill for her and my step-daughter. Her reply..."I'll ask s-d." and then came back with "S-D doesn't want to."
So, this is either her way of saying no without telling me directly she doesn't want to, or her kids are in charge. Actually she does far more babying of her kids now then when I met her. And they were closer to babies then.
How I interacted with her kids and how are kids interacted together is the largest reason for the separation and pending divorce. In fact, I think it is THE major reason. So my concern is that I am going to have my hands tied if they come back. I just don't know if I'll be able to handle the sitch if I'm not allowed to be a dad. MMMmm Anyone's thoughts? Should I just be happy I'm not back together?
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
