Hi - I think she's still on the fence, but either way, you're right that it's not over until you quit. I may not have ever you told you this before, (I'm embarrassed and ashamed by it), but I've been the WAW before. I've been married before. I can tell you that in no way did I ever hug my STXH or heaven forbid kiss him when I'd made my D decision. There were several months when I was on the fence and I tried hard to resist those feelings when they did come. I don't see this in your W. That's not to say that the D won't go through, only that you still have a shot.
I really don't know what advice to give. Have you considered talking to a DB coach? It seems like you might need some expert insight.
