Sorry to hear all of this. You have done what you can, you are a better person, and it is great that you are able to be in a good mood. I imagine you are going through a lot of moods right now.
As for advice, we can certainly offer advice on what doesn't work. The fact that we haven't been able to DB successfuly doesn't detract from the improvements we have made in ourselves, it just means we didn't start soon enough. I think people can still benefit from your experience.
