Thanks Wes. Of course I want my xw to be happy...preferably as my partner in life. I think she may be relieved of some of the stress in her life because she has simplified things immensely. However, that does not make things right...and certainly is not fair to me or my sons because it is her issue with her obsessive/compulsive nature has overwhelmed her. Yes, we are part of the picture, but to pull the plug on three people who love you very much because you can't handle all the turmoil around you is a very immature way to handle things. She just quit, she gave up, she committed a sin against us in breaking her marriage vows...all to placate someone who was leaving the country for 10 months in a matter of days from the time she left. She lost control and this is in a large part a desparate attempt on her part to regain control of her life. Enough venting...anyhow, yes, I love her enough to wish her happiness even without me. I respect her too much to think otherwise. I can't always have what I want, but I certainly prefer it that way!
I know I can help her be happy, but she has to want to let me and want happiness with me. It has been tough, we had crossed the toughest bridges already, but for some reason she just couldn't keep on the road with me...
