I agree. It is a positive. I make a point of indicating I want them to come over. She usually lets them come if they tell her they want to. I had to call last night to see if he wanted to come (he likes to stay over when my boys are). We had an amazing night. I will be very sad if my wife moves away with her kids.
I'm sorry for your situation and understand your frustration. I sometimes get the feeling my WAW wouldn't ever see my kids if I didn't initiate. But I give her the benefit of the doubt....when we talk about it she is torn up about not seeing my kids. I think she feels guilty and uncomfortable with seeing them now. Maybe that's your W problem.
John, you haven't talked to your wife since February. I say you have nothing to lose by writing a letter with the check. Make sure it sounds happy and that you are doing well. Do you want your wife to be happy? Even if it's without you? If you do then I wouldn't feel strange about telling her that you hope she's happy and doing well. I know in my heart that I can make my wife happy, but even if she can't see being with me I still want her to be happy.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
