thanks all, I'm ok, just got back from a counseling appt. and have been frantically busy with work stuff. I will post in the morning about it. some good very good insight I think from the priest...I lucked out, he's acutally trained in Family Therapy from Menningers. You've given so much good and helpful insight, I've only had time to skim it and will need to digest it more in the morning.
