Morning Deb. Sorry you had such a tough weekend. I dont know what to think about what happened. Seems too easy if you know what I mean. Once again he got caught, once again he swears he will end it. What will be different this time? Have you thought thru exactly what he needs to do to PROVE it is all over? Just saying he did it is not going to be enough this time. He had done that already what, 3 0r 4 times? What is he planning on doing differently when she pulls the guilt trips on him? What he is going to do this time to make sure she understands she needs to move on? What will proof postive be for you. I have to agree with dfb, I think you should do it together so she can see you are a united front and no more secrets. Whether it is by phone or in person. I also agree that he doenst need two more weeks. Why? so he can have sex with her ....? more times before he ends it. I also agree he can write her D a letter, your son needs him more. I also agree that he needs to spend some time cleaning out all the crap he has from her, the computer, get rid of all the phone cards...no more Saturday working for awhile maybe get him a new cell phone number. NO more photos or books or coffee mugs or clothing. Nothing.
I absolutely think you are doing the right thing by getting your financials in order, getting your own accounts, etc. You should also be tested, remember the little gift she gave you before?
If he means what he says, he needs to take care of it now, not tomorrow or 2 weeks from now. No more or no Deb.
You have said that you told him that the emails are coming to you from someone at work, right? So he believes that everyone there knows. Can you at this point now get HR involved so they can help you both make this break, that is what they are there for, regardless of his pride.
