I haven't posted to you in awhile, but I've lurked periodically. I'm sorry about your newest discovery and I can tell that you're reeling from this latest turn for the worst.
I'm not here to tell you the path that is best for you, because that's your job. However, I do highly recommend not making any moves or big calls until you know for sure that none of this is a knee-jerk reaction to feeling hurt by his continued betrayal.
That being said, I'm not trying to tell you that you shouldn't feel betrayed or hurt or angry or scared or anxious. What I AM saying is that decisions should never be made as a reaction or on the heels of a traumatic event.
Debra's suggestion of finding a sub is good. And Dawn's to figure out what YOU want (vs. having a talk with him to find out what he wants) is excellent.
That means that your train must stop and you must take control of the brakes and the steering mechanism so that you're not a train wreck in motion. Understand?
I was reminded over and over again at the beginning of my S that the events may be out of my control, but I'm in charge of how I feel and how I respond.
There is a huge difference between reacting and responding. In order for you to be able to think clearly and make good decisions for yourself, it's going to force you to respond rather than react.
His ugly e-mail is disturbing for sure, but it is not forcing you to DO anything that you are not ready to do. I think that the others are trying to get you to see that you DO have choices here. I would rather see you make educated choices where there are no regrets or unhappy reactions causing more pain.
Good luck.
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Betsey 
