Deb You know I dont come here to often anymore, but I wanted to let you know that I too am here to get you through this day.
You need to talk to your priest because you need someone to comfort you. It will do you a world of good, keep dialing that number and make sure they know you are in great need right now.
Start making the calls you need to get the information you need. Start with a lawyer, find one you are comfortable with and see what he/she suggest regarding moving out. Yes he should go but that will just send him to Donna. If you go it may possibly keep him at home (you could consider leaving S with him for a change depending on what S needs right now) where he can start thinking without her around.
I know the things you found hurt. I am sorry.
I agree with everyone here. You need to stick to what you say this time or else it will just be more of the same. If he says he wants the marriage to work, he calls her today with you there and tells her no more and actively starts looking for another job.
Can you have someone cover your class tonight or reschedule? This needs to be Deb time. Use a charge card and stay in a hotel until you can get your thoughts together and your plans made. He has spent money you didnt have, it is your turn and your right to do so.....
