Hey, listen, try NOT to read into the performance problem thing...heck, that's temperature checking to the nth degree and it will drive you CRAZY!
As for the phone bill, I would say leave it for now if you can...you are rebuilding and while it stinks to high heaven that he's still calling her, you are making positive steps every darned day...I dunno...leave it for a bit? (Not necessarily saying forever...just for a bit).
Quote: As much as I hate to say it --admit it, I guess, denial seems to be a happier place to live--
Denial or "conscious forgetting" can be a happier place to live for a while..AND it can be key for both of you getting over the hurdles.
That being said, I expect to be in the minority here...I just think not doing something right now...and particularly not doing it when you're feeling emotional is a good idea.
Hang in there, kiddo. Don't lose sight of how many wonderful changes you've made IN you and FOR you and S (and h and M)!
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
