I'm not someone to give you advice. But I know from several of the threads that I followed that saved their marriages that the contact with OW's doesn't seem to end abrubtly. They start reconnecting with their spouse but still hold onto this other support they have found.
The only other thing I can say, during my time of trying to db I would get to points where I felt I couldn't think and then I usually did something that put me further from my goal. I would trade places with you for a chance to try again to save my marriage. But, I am going to be fine eventually and so will you!
Sending you a big hug and hoping you get some good advice soon.
{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Deb}}}}}}}}}}}}}}
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
