Had to laugh at the image of me following you around your yard and smacking you up-side the head! .....But if it's what you need....then sure, I'll do it. Send a plane!
I like that you are thinking more about things being your h's responsibility. He has to OWN it before he can come to terms with it. Can you improve as a partner? Sure! We all can. Continue working on yourself in terms of what makes Deb a better person not in terms of what will solve all her husband's problems. Lead by example.
You are right, I truly do not think that your h had any intention of leaving. I think he just wanted to spread his misery around for all to share! I think he knows what a great thing he has at home. I think he knows that you are a special person and that he could never, never find another like you.
Thanks for telling me about the C situation. I thought this was the case but wasn't sure. I do think that the 60 mile trip would be worth the trouble. Maybe just go every two weeks?
As far as the credit card, ugh, I have to be honest and tell you that if I did not get a pair of LL bean boots, steaming the damn thing is exactly what I would do! (lol...actually, I would open it right in front of him!) But still, that would not solve anything, would it? Could be a gift for his mom or a gift for you for later on. Better probably to wipe it out of your mind and stop looking at what he is carrying into the office!
Quote: "what if she's making a fool of me, here i am all cheerful and happy and she's still carrying on w/H, pulling him away with all of her crap????
You are cheerful and happy because that is how you choose to live. SHE has made a fool of herself. Anyone can see that.
