The positive things I saw: -Your H still talks to you, even if it's confused. If you read other stories posted here, you'll see that's not the norm.
-On the correct DB response. The correct DB response is for you to get a life and be happy with yourself. I don't know if you have access to Dobson's Book 'Love must be Tough', but there is a difference between being a doormat and loving dettaching. Their is also a difference between no begging, pleading, etc and taking a firm, but non-hostile stand against adultry.
-You should and can vent here. We are all in similar boats. Again, I don't know if you have access to the book "The Five love languages", but in there are discussions about gift giving/receiving.
-You need to do what you decide. Right now, you sound undecided. Do you love H and want to be married? Or not? that is the first question.
