Ok, I get it - I'm "pushy". The weirdest thing is that my H and my Mom are the only people that I am like this with. With my friends and co-workers and the rest of my family I am very timid about asking for things. The exception to that would be that I'm not timid about asking my brother to do things but I don't get pushy with him like I do my H and my Mom. I'll say something to him like "Hey, Brother, I'm ready for the kitchen sink to be re-installed. Stop in whenever you have time".
I'm trying to figure out why. I think it's because I don't want offend or push away those other people. But I don't know why I have found it acceptable to be pushy w/the two most important people in my life. I'm wondering if it is because I felt "safe" that neither my H or my Mom would walk away from me? But I now realize that this has negatively affected not only my R w/my H but also how my Mom and I interact.
OK, another thing to work on.......no more being pushy!!
