Hey Tessa - I was just reading part of your thread and I know how you feel about the sex thing. When H and I separated we still had sex, it was initiated on both parts equally, it played on both our emotions good and bad - for me it was many reasons - I loved my H and wanted him back, we had great sex and I was getting even w/OW at the same time. In the end I did win out - but not for long.....since then we have done tons of back and forth, and right now I'm back to the begining of DR again....I've been at this for a year so maybe this time I'll get it right lol!

I decided after the first time I would go that route again if it killed me!................and trust me it's killing me! But I did learn that I got more response and results by not sleeping with him and it was much less emotional for me - realizing H could go back and forth as long as I let him helped too.

But you'll figure out whats best for you and I wish you luck!