My advice would be to be unavailable for a lot of his booty calls. Make him chase. Obviously he really enjoys your sex life, and will seek you out. And then really let loose when you decide it's right.
The problem is that I am the one initiating the "booty calls". I say things to him in conversation, sometimes pretty ornery things, and then he follows.
I guess I'm feeling down because I tend to be the one to initiate any time that we do spend together. I mean, at least he is now being somewhat receptive. However, I keep feeling that left up to him, we wouldn't be doing any of these things..............
I asked him today if we could spend the day together tomorrow. He said he didn't know, he might have to work. So I said ok, but if you don't have to work can we? He did make two suggestions of places we could go. But I'm starting to wonder if he is using the overtime at work as an excuse. I guess we'll see what tomorrow brings.
I'm thinking it's time to pull back, kind of like starting over at the beginning of the DB process. When I didn't initiate any contact or ask him to do anything.
In our talk today, I brought up the Friday evening that he sent me 20 text messages and called to talk for 45 min. after I had not called him for 2 weeks. He replied "yeah, because that allowed me to start coming back on my own". So yeah, that worked so I must do it again.
Errrrrrrrr, trial and error. I think I started to take a step forward too soon. So time to go back..... It feels harder this time because of the positives that have happened. But I can do it........
So no further contact. I will let him call me about tomorrow, if he chooses. If he doesn't, I will find something else to do.
