I honestly cannot remember how long the longest has been for us to not communicate. He moved out in November and through Nov and Dec we actually spent time together regularly - he split his time between the two of us. The in Jan and Feb we fought alot. I pursued and I'll give him credit, unless he was with her, he always answered his phone. So I starting turning things around on my end about mid-march. When I stopped calling him, I guess he went about two weeks before he really started initiating contact w/me. The evening he started contacting me he sent me a total of 20 text messages and called and talked to me. Things have slowly improved since then - but it's like we take a few steps forward and then a couple steps back and over and over. I have to be really careful not to react to the attention he does give me. Several months ago he made the comment to me "Everytime I start crawling towards you, you come running at me knock me over". So I know that is something that I have to be diligent about keeping in check.
My H would sometimes call just to talk but disguise it in "pratical" calls. It's hard to tell.......
It has helped to miss some of his calls and wait to reply to his text messages. As far as not answering his calls, I'm not good at that - but my cell phone does not have service at my Mom's and some places that my friend and I go, so I've missed his calls purely by accident. But it was a good thing.
I don't know Anna, except I know there is no time frame for these things. I read through success stories and compare my progress or lack of progress to the time frame in those situations but I know that every situation has a different time frame and every situations is different.
