It seemed to me that to hold onto a personal opinion in light of researched information falls into the same category as this pushy aggressiveness or stubbornness
I do not just accept researched information as fact as I have learned in my college research classes that research can be skewed. There are many factors that play into whether or not the findings of a research study are accurate or skewed. I have to read the research and then evaluate the factors to determine whether or not the research is legitimate. There are conclusions from research studies that contradict other research studies, thus just because something is researched does not mean that it is right. And it does not make me close-minded, stubborn, or aggressive to filter the information that I accept as fact.
As far as the "traits" that led to the deterioration of my relationship - I may not have posted on the details but I have indeed posted in different areas that I know I did wrong and I recognize what those things are. My husband and I have had several conversations and we are both able to identify the things that we each did wrong. And yes I am making changes, permanent changes, but these changes don't happen overnight. It is a process and sometimes the journey through that process is straight forward. Sometimes it is a few steps forward followed by a couple steps back and then a few steps forward again until the journey is complete and the goal of change is met.
It is not necessarily an immediate all or nothing change.
The fact is, I have been making a lot of changes and yes my husband has noticed those changes. I know that I have to keep working at them to keep those changes in place so that they become permanent.
