Hey Tessa,

Yes I'm running again. I went for a 16 mile run which felt great Just a relief to get back out there and see that I had not lost any ground in a week.

This whole expectation topic is interesting to me. It would be great to get the opportunity to figure this stuff out with my H some day. Right now I am surprised by how detached I feel. While i don't believe you can have a marriage in this state, there is something freeing about not having ANY expectations of my H. he gets to choose what he wants to do and I'm choosing to be okay with that FOR NOW. I can also choose to push for a decision if I feel like it.

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But I never thought of it as a way to "re-learn" my H and what it is he expects and how he can pleasantly surprise me when my idealistic expectations are eliminated.




If you are at all like me, it helps to know exactly what you're getting out of eliminating expectations and why it will help you to your ultimate goal.

Tess I think you are giving some good advice. I had forgotten how rough things were for you at the beginning because you've had some great interactions recently. Man, I would kill for a kiss right now I'm so jealous of your "date" with H last week!!

have a great week



But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus