The expectation thing is really hard. When you've known someone so well and they suddenly stop behaving predictably, it's hard to release your understanding of them.
I'm personally sitting here with dashed expectations, because H had said he'd get here early enough this morning to get the babies up so that I could sleep in. He's not here, and the kids are awake. So again, I've got all the reesponsibility and exhaustion while he sleeps in at his parents' house.
Plus, he had originally told me he wanted to see the kids 5 nights a week and weekends. I said no. Last week I took that back, and gave him free access to the kids, expecting him to be thrilled and eager to be with them. He hasn't asked once for extra time.
My expectations are built on what I previously knew about him, and I still haven't shaken the idea that he would treat us the way he used to. Trying to lower expectations.
