Rough day and evening? I understand how you're feeling but NYS is right. YOu do need to pull back some. It is a first step that you're not calling because you feel needy but now now you're calling because you feel anxious. Plus look at the results you seem to get from these calls.
i told jirm earlier today - it seems so hard to pull back at all because we feel that the distance will drive them further away but I don't believe that is necessarily true. I think giving them some space can allow them the time to think about what's going on in their lives. The time apart isn't making you feel any less in love with your H is it?
Remember too that no matter how bad your sitch seems, there are others out here that would consider it a step (or a couple of steps:)) above their sitches. I onlt say that because I know how wrapped up we all feel in the drama of our sitches. I try to remind myself how lucky I truly am in the big picture and it helps me reduce my anxiety considerably. It doesn't mean I'm not going through a hard time but I am so thankful for all the good in my life too.
You sound a lot like me in that you put a lot of pressure on yourself and you want things to start getting better quickly. This is going to take some time - just try to stay focused on what drives positive behaviour from from your H and what doesn't. Remember - if it's not working - stop doing it!!
By the way, how was your first week of work? Was the computer training okay?
The haircut and highlights and massage appts sound great:) I'm thinking about highlights too but since summer is pretty much here and I don't have a job yet:) I may just see what the sun will do for me!
Well enough girl talk
But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus
