Quote: Another big problem for me right now is the fact that I am continueing the same old behavior of focusing on the negative. That old behavior definately caused problems in my marriage and in my career which then spilled over into my marriage. Focusing on the negative only triggers the doubts and fears that then lead to whiny, clingy, it's all about me behavior. As well as checking up on him and obsessing over what he is doing.
Many of us walk this path - my saviour was Sage's idea of listing positives everyday on my thread. It helped me re-wire my thinking so I was looking for positives, and forgot about the negative-hunting habit.
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