Listen to Ohio and NY. They know what they are talking about.
Quote: Yes I want to confront him but I do know it won't help anything. I'm just tired of being without him, I'm tired of putting parts of my life on hold because of him, I'm tired of not knowing, and I'm tired of being scared. At times like these I just feel like the hold this woman has on him will never go away.
Most of us here know exactly how you feel. The thing that most helped me detach and keep my obsession with the OP under control, is to stop snooping. It's very hard to do but it helps your PMA and ability to "as if". Only look at the bill part and file/trash the phone log part of the phone bill. Snooping just picks at the sore. Let it start to heal.
