I have already posted my situation in the newbie forum. To breifly recap: H 29, me 27, M 5 1/2 years, EA w/OW for approx. 1 year, PA w/her for about 5-6 months, S almost 6 months.
I started DB about 4 weeks ago with what I feel are several positive results including visits from him and occassional telephone calls.
The part that confuses me - On thursday I asked him if he wanted to eat dinner w/me and he agreed. Right before he left he started talking about things. He told me that sometimes he wants this (which I understand to be our R) and sometimes he wants the other (which I understand to be the OW). He went on to say "I'm trying to wait and see if the positive times with you outweigh my want to be with the other". Then he followed that by saying "Now I'm telling you too much". And then the last thing before he left, he put his hand on my cheek and looked me in the eyes and said, "keep doing what your doing".
I don't know how to interpret all of this. Is it a good thing because he does want to be with me sometimes? Or is it a bad thing because he stills wants to be with her? And why does he think he's telling me too much?
At one point in time I felt positive about this information but since he told me this, he was withdrawn from me again. Is this just something to be expected and I just need to ride it out? Or is he re-thinking everything again and swaying back to the OW?
I know I can't sit around and dwell on this but I would like to hear any thoughts or comments from others. Thanks............TJ
