Thank you for your feedback and reassurance. After talking with H and reading what you had to offer, it WAS the amount of alcohol H had to drink that night and NOT ME. H reminded me that this actually happened once before a really loooong time ago; another time when he consumed too much alcohol. So I do feel much better now hearing it and most of all being reassured by H, but many times I need to hear the reassurances more than once. Thanks again.
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Back to anniversary night:
Basically, H reassured me that it was the alcohol and not me by saying, "Who do I love, JV?", "Who's my sexy wife?", and "Who does this man belong to?" After answering "me" to the last one, H said, "Then come get your man, babe."... !
Yesterday, H was working all day doing installs. When he got home and after the kids were in bed, H asked again why I started crying the other night. I thought very carefully about what to say because, of course, I didn't want to say, "It was because of what you said to me before!" . I told H, "I took what happened personally. I thought it had to do with me, and it made me feel inadequate." H said, "Inadequate? Not at all. I just had too much to drink, I'm sorry." I told H don't be because he didn't do anything wrong.
Awhile later, our mutual friend called H to see if he wanted to go play cards with him. H told him he would call him back. H went to take a shower and afterwards said to me, "So, here's the deal. I'm taking Saturday off. We can drive down to Magic Mountain on Friday after the kids are gone, spend all of Saturday there, but I have to work on Sunday, ok?" I said ok then H said, "Well, I know I used up my 2 nights already this week, but if you let me go tonight with XXX then I only get to go 1 night next week. Are you alright with that? If not, I won't go." I told H that was fine with me.
So H quickly got dressed and was running around the house looking for his keys, ID, etc. H said, "I don't have to work early tomorrow, so....I'll see you whenever I get home. Bye." I said bye then he left..... ....H was in such a hurry there was no "thank you", "ILY", a hug, or whatever from him.....BUT then H walked back in the door, came to me, gave me a kiss and hug and said, "Thank you......I am sorry about last night. Did you at least have fun?" I said, "Yes, of course!" Then H said, "I just wanted to please you." I said, "You did, H. I really enjoyed being with you; I always do." Then H said, "Alright. Thank you. I'll see you when I get home. ILY."
H returned home only after about 2 1/2 hours. He booked a quick win!
How exciting! We're going to Magic Mountain this weekend ! I've only been there once when I was 14, and H has never been there before. We should definitely have a blast !
Thanks for listening.
JV
Valerie
"I can't change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination." ~ author unknown
! 
. I told H, "I took what happened personally. I thought it had to do with me, and it made me feel inadequate." H said, "Inadequate? Not at all. I just had too much to drink, I'm sorry." I told H don't be because he didn't do anything wrong. 
....H was in such a hurry there was no "thank you", "ILY", a hug, or whatever from him.....BUT then H walked back in the door, came to me, gave me a kiss and hug and said, "Thank you......I am sorry about last night. Did you at least have fun?" I said, "Yes, of course!" Then H said, "I just wanted to please you." I said, "You did, H. I really enjoyed being with you; I always do." Then H said, "Alright. Thank you. I'll see you when I get home. ILY." 
