Trying to find our way to happiness

[ValerieA]

D and Andrea,

As always, thank you for your support. It means a lot to me.

I am trying to be careful, too. It can be very difficult at times and even moreso when H won't give me my space, but maybe I should look at those times as small positives since H is willing to talk with me.

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I'm not sure what time H got home last night; I didn't look over at the alarm clock. Maybe around 2am or so since he told me he would be home by then.

All I remember was H coming in the room and laying on top of me saying, "Happy Anniversary," then giving me a really nice kiss !

This morning, H took the boys to school. While he was gone, I put his gift and card on the bed so that he would see them when he came back to shower.

After H got here and went into the bedroom, he came into the living room where I was, grabbed me and said, "Thank you!", and gave me a hug and kiss.

I asked H if he liked the ring and he said, "Yes, thank you. That was so thoughtful of you." I told H, "This one's not going back unless it needs to be sized," (to which H said it does).......The reason I said "this one's not going back" is because since H dropped all the weight, his original band didn't fit anymore, he was talking of getting a new one, so I bought him a platinum diamond band for Christmas. After receiving it, H said it was too small and went to have it sized, but he said the sales associates were giving him a hard time because he didn't have the sales slip (all they had to do was ask who bought it to look it up in their computer -- problem solved). I said I would take care of it, but H said, "NO! They p*ssed me off so take it back! I'll get a different one from someplace else." So I took it back, and I bought him a similar one at a different jeweler, but H was upset with that. He wouldn't wear it (even though it fit perfectly) because he said he liked the first one I bought best. So weeks were going by, I was upset that he wasn't wearing it, we argued about it, and I ended up returning the band again (right before the bomb dropped) due to H insisting that I do so.......Well, now I know why I had to return both wedding bands. H was having the A, and he felt he didn't deserve them (his words not mine).

I also bought him a muscle tee with the UFC logo on it (H likes that stuff) and a cap to go with it. He wore them today !

Before he left (he had to go near Auburn today to get some extra equipment from a former co-worker), he said that he was going to make arrangements with MIL to come over tonight and stay with the kids so he could take me out. I'm not expecting anything big. I'll settle for a nice dinner out and MAYBE a movie . We have the whole weekend to look forward to !

Thanks for listening.

JV