Trying to find our way to happiness

[ValerieA]

Thanks for stopping by, Sage.

JV -- Why not ask him what schedule he thinks makes sense? I'd only do this if you can live with the answer without modifying it, ya know?

Or you could say "I'd like at least 2 nights to be family nights, how would you feel about that?"

The latter sounds best to me. I'll try it. Thank you, Sage.

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Yesterday had it's ups and downs; I already know to expect that . Here's my list now:

+ POSITIVES +

+ H helped out A LOT with the kids (took them to and from school, went bowling, played mini-golf). IOW, H made the day much more relaxing for me .
+ Hugs and kisses continued.
+ More flirting! At home and over the phone -- very nice !

- NEGATIVES -

- H ASSuming the worst of me when wanting to go play poker.
- When I asked to talk about a compromise on poker nights, H seemed MILDLY defensive about it. (But he DID agree to discuss this later.)
- Although H called to "check in" while he was out playing cards a few times, he kept saying, "I'm just calling to check in so you won't be trippin'." My reply, "I'm not." His response, "Yes you are. I KNOW you're wondering what I'm doing." Again -- he is ASSuming the worst of me .
- H had been drinking while out and was a bit obnoxious and irritating over the phone.
- H didn't get home until 5:30am -- I was bothered but kept my cool.

* THINGS TO WORK ON *

* When compromising, I can suggest what I would like, but then I should ask H how he feels about it. By doing this, he will feel included in OUR decision. (Thanks again, Sage.)
* Getting H to feel more comfortable when he wants to ask for something. Right now, this mostly has to do with playing poker. In the past, there were so many times I wasn't happy about it and clearly showed it to H. This is why I think he always ASSumes the worst now when asking. I have backed down considerably, and I haven't shown him any grief about it. I think if we can reach a compromise/agreement, it may help ease the tension that poker nights create for us.

Alright -- I like listing these things now. They stick in my head much better this way !

H went to Sacramento to pick up more equipment then he's going to Napa to set up the show for this weekend, and H again said he's staying home tonight . He hugged and kissed me (twice ) before leaving.

So far so good this morning. I hope the rest of my day and everyone else's goes well!

JV