Trying to find our way to happiness

[sage]

J -- One of the things that my h has told me he really has a hard time dealing with is if I'm upset and he doesn't know why. My 2 cents is that next time h asks, give him a more detailed answer. It's great to "own" your feelings and tell him it's "my stuff" but the exchange still seemed a little confusing. It's ok to say "I'm having a hard time dealing with xyz. It's nothing you've done" etc.

Now...if you ARE angry or upset with him, best not to fib about it. For the time being it may be best to keep your negative emotions to yourself BUT that also means don't display them on your face, in your actions, etc.

I'm not suggesting that you stuff your feelings forever but DB'ing has definitely helped me to see that not every feeling has to be "expressed".

Sage