As you say, a rollercoaster. I can only give you the advice most would on the bb, and that is to work on yourself. Make positive 180's, have patience, and try not to initiate R talks. I know, I know, really hard, isn't it? I tried and failed. My H also had an EA, with a woman he knew in high school, so not much chance of my winning my H back, but you still have a chance. All you can do is your best, and if that doesn't work, then you know you've tried. That is my attitude now. I tried, and it wasn't enough for him, so I move on.
Keep posting, and good luck with your sitch. Don't we all need that, 'eh? Good luck, and a miracle or two would not go amiss.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim