First of all, our relationship other than the sex was good without any of the big issues that I hear about on here. Think about it. No medical change is going to solve tension in the marriage relating to financial problems. The only nonsexual problems were communications in the way we discussed the sexual problems. The question I had during this time, and Honeypot also questioned, is how can it truly e a loving relationship I she wasn’t willing to try to have more passion in the sex. I’m sure all of the HD people on here felt ‘even if he/she doesn’t feel it why won’t they just do it for me?’ I think that is sort of like asking a color blind person to start painting with colors. They aren’t going to get it right or understand why.
Second issue, my W did have other symptoms of thyroid problems. I will post the checklist of symptoms on a separate post. In our case, the key indicators were; feeling cold, low energy, tiredness, low libido, with many other minor symptoms (puffyness under the eyes, dry eyes, etc). The doctor was treating all these symptoms, not just the low libido. I think that in our case all of these were tied together, certainly the low energy, fatigue and libido were al tied together.
Third issue, real or placebo? I don’t think it is placebo effect that we are seeing, having said that, if it is I really don’t care, I like the results. Most of her other Thyroid symptoms went away, her hands and feet feel warm after taking the thyroid medication, I don’t think placebo effect cause that, the amount of sleep she needs has decreased without her feeling tired, and her general energy level has increased. The sexual respose has changed in a few ways, from a purely physiological standpoint her response to stimulus has changed measured by how ‘wet’ she becomes. Kissing and hugging in bed has resulted in her getting noticeably aroused. Prior to the medication, direct clitoral stimulation only resulted in a fraction of the ‘wetness’ that she now has without stimulation.
Fourth issue, how she feels. She has told me that her overall she feels better, a general feeling of wellness. Plus while walking together she criticized me for having my hands in my pockets, she wanted to hold hands while walking and said that she ‘feels it inside’ when we touch. I don’t know how (or if you should) quantify this effect, and here is where it maybe placebo, or all the other symptoms made this to hard in the past. Do you remember the ‘feeling’ that a touch could bring.. that is back in or relationship.
Fifth issue, you and your doctor. I’m not one to go running to doctors (actually I try to avoid them). The internet is a wonderful resource, and I’m sure that ANY opinion you have could be backed up by a website if you look hard enough (I bet there is a site for people who believe the earth is flat). There are a number of sites that talk about thyroid conditions, and even in the more respected ones the information is contradictory. Our general doctor said that there is nothing wrong, her OB/GYN said that there is nothing you can do (she did prescribe testosterone before but he side effects and possible problems overweighed the effects), the psychiatrist said that they don’t medically treat this in women. Even the endocrinologist said that her ‘numbers’ weren’t extreme, but decided to try to treat the symptoms. This was the key! Finding the right doctor and being your own health advocate. I told my W that I know her better than the doctors, And I can tell if something isn’t right. It took years to convince HER of this. Who am I, just her husband and they went to med school how could I know. Yesterday she apologized for not listening to me and made me promise to let her know if I think she isn’t healthy again. I smiled…
