Pam,
Just a thought here, cause right now you sound like my little sister. You can't "make" people (like the dog club) "see" what happened. There will be people who chose to "side" with J, but you may be just as suprised to know that most of them don't care what happened. It didn't affect them. Their lives went merrily on.

If J has been "given" responsibilities, it's cause she wants them. Not necessarily because she's liked. Most organizations are delighted to have anyone take on the work!

So if you want to go back to the club, GO! Hold your head up high! You didn't do anything wrong. You've had an emotional upheaval in your life. So go! Put a smile on your face and don't remark on J or D's actions. Remember, actions speak louder than words!!!

Mom and baby are doing great! Mom is a spotted saddle horse and dad is a Tennessee walker. The baby, Covergirl's Miss Priscella {Miss Priss} is pale brown, strange colored legs and she has black on the lower backs of all 4 legs. Quite different!! She is changing daily. Should be interesting to see what she ends up looking like.

When you can't make a decision because you are torn between your heart and your head, listen to the half with the brain.