I really did know what you meant. I think my sleep is fine now other than just feel the need for it all the time. The kids are pretty good most nights at sleeping all night.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
This kept staying with me and decided to move it here so I could find it again easier. A part of a post by Wonder to Underdog.
Quote: BUT I also know that a D is my reality and that I can choose to make my life better starting from where I actually am, or I can choose to pretend it's not my responsibility.
I could stand around cursing at reality and wanting it to be something else and suffering needlessly as a result. But where does that get me?
Something has been telling me to re-read this book.
It's a good time given I'm less defensive, much more able to cope with my own fears, and less willing to dismiss concepts out of hand because they are packaged in a bit of a different belief system than the one I operate with.
(I tend to believe painful situations don't happen because we need them to make us grow... but that there is always growth opportunity in every painful or seemingly negative situation we encounter. And we can choose to find it and use it or not).
I keep recalling one of my first C sessions in which my C said "everybody experiences pain, but suffering is optional." That's a lot of this book's message, isn't it?
I think I realized at some point that if I'm happier 10 years from now, it is not going to be "because of" what my husband's actions were... just like it won't be "because of" his actions if I am unhappy 10 years from now. It will be because of me and what I choose.
Emotional responsibility and choice is worth exploring, no matter how it comes to us, right?
wonder
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
You know, a very close friend of mine died a few months back. Perfectly healthy, just had a massive heart attack. I've tried to keep up with her kids, and husband over this time. Last week, after the first major holiday without her (Easter), and the birth of two grandsons, I asked how he was doing. He really answered me. " It's so hard. You just expect her to be there. But, I can see how far we have all come in the last month. "
So, Pam, It's hard. Whether it's a divorce or a death. You may have hit a little bump in your road, but you have grown. It's apparent to those of us on the outside looking in.
Coffee!!! It's our downfall!!!!
When you can't make a decision because you are torn between your heart and your head, listen to the half with the brain.
Quote: but you have grown. It's apparent to those of us on the outside looking in.
Hi Pattie,
Thank you so much for that, sometimes I just need it reaffirmed. I feel it, but sometimes I start beating myself up that I'm still too emotional, still react too emotionally and where is that logic I want so bad????
I actually consider myself pretty fortunate, but that doesn't keep me from being sad at times still.
Still no baby???????
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
No baby!! To add to that, I was reading that the gestation period could take up to 370 days. That's over a year!!! Which means we could be going into summer!! Glad I'm not a horse!!!
So, what's on for the weekend? Any events?
When you can't make a decision because you are torn between your heart and your head, listen to the half with the brain.
Pulled these off of Michele's thread in Hopefulness. I am finding so many gems that are speaking to me lately it seems.
Quote: William Bridges wrote an interesting little book called, "Transitions." In it, he says all transitions start with an ending, a period of uncertainty and then a new beginning.
Quote: I pulled this off Wonder's post to Underdog: Quote:
He was warning me that the most common pitfall of going through a divorce is the tendency to speed through to "the other side", to start a new life and leave all of the rest behind. He was advising I listen to myself and take my time healing and putting in place the vision I have for my future as it unfolds. Not to be in any kind of rush.
His point? That pushing the past behind us and/or trying to make lots of changes in rapid succession is often a strategy for trying to change our emotional temperature (or landscape, if that is prettier) from the outside. Instead of dealing with what's inside... and building from there.
Wonder, thank your uncle for me, because what he said to you helped crystallize something I have been struggling with.
It's my process and my timeline. No one else's.
Gratefully yours, Michele
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
It's our downfall!!!!