Chapter 3: Spring and the Journey Continues

[psluke]

This kept staying with me and decided to move it here so I could find it again easier. A part of a post by Wonder to Underdog.

BUT I also know that a D is my reality and that I can choose to make my life better starting from where I actually am, or I can choose to pretend it's not my responsibility.

I could stand around cursing at reality and wanting it to be something else and suffering needlessly as a result. But where does that get me?

Something has been telling me to re-read this book.

It's a good time given I'm less defensive, much more able to cope with my own fears, and less willing to dismiss concepts out of hand because they are packaged in a bit of a different belief system than the one I operate with.

(I tend to believe painful situations don't happen because we need them to make us grow... but that there is always growth opportunity in every painful or seemingly negative situation we encounter. And we can choose to find it and use it or not).

I keep recalling one of my first C sessions in which my C said "everybody experiences pain, but suffering is optional." That's a lot of this book's message, isn't it?

I think I realized at some point that if I'm happier 10 years from now, it is not going to be "because of" what my husband's actions were... just like it won't be "because of" his actions if I am unhappy 10 years from now. It will be because of me and what I choose.

Emotional responsibility and choice is worth exploring, no matter how it comes to us, right?

wonder