Reading yesterday on the sheltie bb that I post on and followed a link to 9/11 canine hereos. When you think of something like that you realize how fragile and uncertain life can be. It also seems to put petty feelings and thoughts into a different perspective.
My first thought was why couldn't D have chosen to work on our marriage. Then looking at it from D's side how sad not to have left to be with the woman you truly love. I believe that he loved her even when he married me. Not necessarily knowlingly. I believe he thought he loved me when he married me it was when he found out she was going to be available again that he realized she was the one he really loved and wanted to be with.
I at least wish he had handled things a bit differently but emotional situations aren't easy to handle for most people and for him with his conflict avoidance I think especially difficult.
I'm not to forgiveness or wishing them well yet, but maybe closer to understanding what happened.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
