When my W and I were going to MC (we’ve since stopped, my W just see the point in it, since I think she has decided to move on (LRT is in effect, so hopefully that can change)), that therapist (who we both liked, though I think she was too slow in getting to the “hard stuff”) spent a considerable amount of time on what she calls “family of origin”… which is looking at your past, and how it is impacting the present. She also had recommended Imago sessions and/or Gottman Institute sessions in addition to the regular MC. Never got to that point, though until it’s over, I will hold out hope that we could at some point go to the seminars, as in my reading up on them, they seem to be a very good thing and well worth the cost.
Though as I said… my W is more for the delving therapy as opposed to the Solution-Based Therapy (SBT… that’s what I couldn’t remember that Michele called it in DB) or CBT, which seems similar to me (though, I am not a psychiatrist/psychologist, so what do I know?!). So I’m not sure that the Imago or Gottman seminars would be anything she would ever go to.
I have to say, that your T sounds perfect… some past, some present… just a good mix of the different therapies (that’s why I would never use my original T for MC… he was solely fixated on CBT).
Before our last MC session… when I could see we were at a major critical point, I had asked for homework from the T. She would have given it to us, but my W said “no, I’m not going to do any homework, I don’t see why we should continue this”. Talk about a kick to the gut!
It sounds to me Jennifer, in reading your thread, that things are looking quite good for you! Keep up the excellent (I know it’s hard, but sounds like you are on the right track) work!
Forgiveness is the release of all hope for a better past. – Alexa Young
