Quote: Mr. Cranky reared his UgliHead and lit into me for the "tight deadline" over at the house and how "I want I want I want" but I don't want to come up with any solutions.
What kind of solution is he expecting you to come up with? And why, with such a tight deadline, is he doing grunt work like pulling up the decking, when any logical person would pick up some day laborers to help with that and concentrate on the doing the more skilled labor himself?
It seems that not REacting has been serving you well when he gets like this - he has been coming and apologizing to you later. Is this a Venusian communicating style coming from him - he just wants to vent, doesn't really want you to leap in with options and solutions? Or is there something he wants you to say or do specifically - change the move-in date to the day before your due-date, or kick in money to pay for some laborers, or ??????
Quote: So I went downstairs and for the umpteenth day in a row washed all the crap in the sink from the night before (this time it was the dessert plates),
Is this the start of an issue? Living together does require all these little negotiationsover irritating things like dishes. Don't get started on the martyrdom path - it seldom works out well. Either accept that he's not big on getting the dishes done the night before, or usea little honey or humor to get him to do them with you the night before.
