Quote: Detaching isn't about distancing. Think differentiation. Not taking things personally. Loving detachment.
I agree here. J, my point was, being cold and indifferent to him when he reaches out to you is NOT helpful. That's why I suggested insisting on him telling Swiss Miss at your next therapy session - so you can get rid of all this resentment that is causing you to behave badly towards him right now.
I respect you wanting to give him access to his child, even if you aren't together. I thought this week he made the most hopeful declaration yet that he wants a future with you. Get your own divorce in order, tell him you won't move in with him without a ring and a date, and give him an opportunity to step up to the plate.
