Quote: I am a real supporter of paternal rights, and I won't deny him those rights just because the law says I can.
Funny you should mention that, because so am I.
Those rights don't come from a law, Jennifer. They are attendant on the paternal responsibilities. S needs to "step up to the plate." Have you heard the saying, "The best thing a man can do for his children is love their mother?"
For whatever reason, S is not showing that love to you now. What love is there without respect? How do his actions regarding SM show respect for your feelings? Forget about the snooping. If you knew only what he believes you know, in what way would that situation demonstrate that he respects your perfectly valid feelings about SM and about his commitment to you and your daughter?
No one has a stronger belief in paternal rights than I do. But in my view, fatherhood is an honor, not a right granted by some legislation. From what I read in your thread these days, S is not acting in an honorable manner.
I hope this isn't coming across as whacks. I think I understand a little of what it might feel like to see your expected parenting partner failing to act in your child's best interest. Even if I miss that, I do understand that this is agonizing for you right now. You're a strong woman and we all know you will choose what you believe is best for your child.
Prayers and hugs,
K
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