I've been lurking and watching your story unfold with great apprehension. But you seem to continue to amaze me with your resilience and commitment to moving forward. Thanks for the boost in faith!
S's words on what he wants is positive, isn't it? I guess it's now up to him on making those words turn into actions. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you.
Quote: I’ve always said that S. says he wants a family but acts like a single man. I wish he had a close friend who wasn’t (a) 20, (b) a misanthrope, (c) a “guy’s guy” (d) someone with whom he’s had an affair.
After I had myself a good chuckle on the misanthrope thing (I don't know why, but that description really tickled my funny bone), I realized something. Have you come right out and expressed this wish to him, Jennifer?
Because if it is truthful, it might be positive to get the T's feedback on his choices for a support network. Not one of the items in that food group is good for him on a long term basis... I don't think you're being unreasonable for wanting at least SOMEONE responsible and mature to be in his inner circle of friends.
But, that's just my opinion, FWIW.
Big hugs to you, special one (not hard enough to squeeze your growing abdomen ).
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
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Betsey 
