Jennifer- I have nothing new to add, but would like to copy Michele’s words of wisdom, as I found them so soothing and uplifting as well.
“We have a choice to have an effortless life. We can choose the peaceful path. To do so, we have to understand and love ourselves, and strive to be authentic in all our Rs. Even the one we have with ourselves. I believe when we fight our own self and the Universe, we set our selves up for an effort-full life over an effortless one. Make sense?
Decide on the life you want and live it. If you want a life coherent with your values, goals and truths, then live your values, goals and truths. If others choose to join you, great. If you do it by yourself, for yourself -- child, your life will be so joyful. With or without him.
Don't sabotage the joy which the Universe or God or however you construct your world sends your way. Each of us are worthy of joy, of happiness, of bliss. Being divorced doesn't change that. Being unmarried doesn't change that. Being M doesn't change that. I believe God wants joy for us, and constantly leads us to it. Whether we take Him up on it or not, that's our limitation. If we can't see it because our beliefs limit us, well, that's a tragedy.”
I hope you are enjoying your pregnancy, and savoring the thought of being a mother to a gorgeous baby girl. Focus on you and what an incredible journey you are on, whether he is on it or not. I am choosing not to give you advice or ideas about SO, as the mom in me just really really really wants you to be joyful and celebratory about your future. These opportunities don’t come around very often! The picture perfect family may not be what you will have, but you and your daughter’s lives will be so enriched for being together.
