I have to speak to the "joy" question. I mentioned being able to handle adversity as well as joy because sometimes we are so dumbstruck by joy we pooh-pooh it or minimize it or ignore it. Especially if we've decided joy's not for us -- we are destined for a life of self-flagellation and suffering.
Don't sabotage the joy which the Universe or God or however you construct your world sends your way. Each of us are worthy of joy, of happiness, of bliss. Being divorced doesn't change that. Being unmarried doesn't change that. Being M doesn't change that. I believe God wants joy for us, and constantly leads us to it. Whether we take Him up on it or not, that's our limitation. If we can't see it because our beliefs limit us, well, that's a tragedy.
Joy is God's desired nature for us all. Being open to it is the key.
Enough preaching. Good night and good luck, Michele
