Jennifer, I just lost a long post that I was writing to you. I went back to check what you were playing in the park and couldn't get back to my post.

I just said that I thought Michele and Merrick said some great things. I agree with Michele about defining and sticking to your values as being what's important. I also agree with Merrick that the current issue seems like another version of other issues I've read about in your posts.

For some reason, I'm not sure that you'd be as keen on M if either you were legally avalaible or if SO were keen. Also, I can relate to SO wanting you to come clean with your parents about your existing arrangement. I think the issue is much more complicated than: J wants M but SO is ambivalent.

As always, I love the way you talk about your life. If it were a fictional series I'd be following it very closely. I love how honestly you write.

Best,
Wendy

Me: 51
H: 52
T: 23 yrs
M: 19 yrs
S18, D16, S14 (special needs)
PA: 2003/2004
Piecing: 2004 on
Suspect H had EA: 8/2012-12/2012