Quote: SE clearly has some issues with depression - is there any way to address this with him? I don’t know that this is the case. Please elaborate.
Quote: though he says he is profoundly unhappy, he is still sticking in here
Well - that's your first clue - he says he's "profoundly unhappy". And just why should he be "profoundly unhappY"? He's got a beautiful, intelligent woman who knows his flaws but loves him anyway, has forgiven him his affair, loves him so much she has posted daily on this board for forever in an attempt to improve herself and the relationship. He's having a child with this same wonderful woman - a miracle and a blessing. He owns property and is financially stable. His overwhelming problems that are making him so unhappy are....what, exactly? I'm voting for serotonin deficiency, myself. The irritability, the blaming others for his moods, the finger-pointing at relatively minor behaviors on your part as the excuse for his inability to commit, the lack of empathy for your concerns - just the struggle to be happy when, in reality, his life is pretty darned good! I recognize it all because this is how my H was too before he got treated for his depression.
