J - I'm sorry I offended you with my comment. My point was simply that you knew he was imperfect in a lot of these ways, and made the perfectly valid decision that the good outweighed the bad and you still wanted to work on the R. Given that decision, I didn't think it fair or useful to then be mad at him for having those imperfections. And usually, there's a flip side to our spouses imperfections that has something to do with why we chose them (my H's perfectionism, for instance, drives me crazy - but I also must admit I picked him in part because he was a motivated and productive guy - the other side of that coin).
I understand his procrastination is driving you mad - it would me too. And I understand the underlying fear - will he chicken out at the last minute? I'm just trying to point out that pressuring him and trying to control this outcome is probably counterproductive. Tell him you trust him to have the apartment ready in time, and let it go. Enjoy being pregnant, don't borrow trouble from the future. If he does come though, you'll have spent all this time and negative energy worrying for nothing.
