It's great to hear from all of you. I feel like old friends again!
Quote: After all, it is NOT the end of the world to move into an apartment in the last months of pregnancy - military wives do it all the time.
Let me clarify. S. has issues about money, yes. But not because he doesn't have any! Getting an extra month's rent (basically, $1600) out of that apartment, in the grand scheme of things, hardly (in my book) makes up for not moving into a place as soon as possible. And to address your comment above, Ellie, military wives have been actually living with their spouses already. My thought - which I think is perfectly reasonable - is to move in together as soon as possibile so that we aren't adjusting to a new space, a new baby, AND living together all at once. Remember, we don't live together now. It's not the moving I'm worried about, it's sharing a space at all! And, maybe you didn't catch this, but the apartment I want to move into HAS A KITCHEN.
So anyway, you're right about not trusting that he's going to do the right thing. I've really given up, in a way, but I still see him doing everything BUT preparing to move. It's disconcerting. We have so little time - it's not like the drop-dead date is somewhere out in the nebulous future. It's a matter of days before he has to have his apartment packed up.
What I CAN do is stay out of his hair, because he tends to blame me for not getting anything done. I have no idea how this happens, because I seem to have no trouble getting all MY work done, which is more than full-time work, and somehow he gets none done and it's my fault. So I can stay away, and let him stew in his own mess and avoid being blamed for it later.
We leave tomorrow for his sister's wedding in California, so starting tomorrow morning I'll be off the boards until Tuesday. We have T tonight so maybe I'll have time to pop in for an update.
