We had our first session with MC (who does couples therapy dealing with both relationship and sexual issues) on Monday and returned feeling hopeful. After listening to us, she wants to work on R issues first. She was very reassuring that many couples have a desire discrepancy and problems being in sync as far as time of day goes, and that these are not unsolvable problems. (Of course it's good for her business to say things which motivate us to come back, but still, though we each expressed strong feelings - anger, hurt, etc - we both felt encouraged when done).
She recommended the book: "Women Who Love Sex: An Inquiry into the Expanding Spirit of Women's Erotic Experience" Amazon link by Gina Ogden, (a psychotherapist who is on the AASECT list). She said many people find the book both validating and uplifting. So we have ordered it.
She does not want to start by focusing on techniques or strictly genital sex. She seems to have a more holistic view of improving the emotional R and increasing the general sensuality of the physical R before dealing with specific sexual issues.
We will see her next week, but we didn't really establish what she thinks the timeframe might be in terms of number of sessions.
Doglover
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