Welcome to my world of patience and perseverance. When I finally resurrected my sex drive, I erroneously thought my H would be thrilled...as you can see from my many posts, he made it clear he was not operating on my timetable. H had anger and resentment towards me and his own LD issues. He felt pressure from me and I felt controlled ( I guess the reverse was true yrs ago).
What started as a personal journey ( my sexuality) led to a desire to improve my marriage and showed me just how committed I am to this man. I am proud of the fact that we now have a regular sex life, but it's not without its share of frustration. We have found that the best way to keep things going is to ML on a schedule...I've traded natural spontaneity for consistency, and it's really nice when we can meet each other's expectations. We're slowly getting to a point of joking over the whole thing...my H found some desire at 5:00 this morning and made sure to let me know it counted for Saturday. What I like about the schedule is that my H is too LD for me to seduce him, so ML was under his control, and I was too HD to handle not knowing when he'd come through.
Posting here on the board and reading about everyone's situations really gets me thinking and working on my sexuality, communication, and the marriage...recently I have been more selfish about O'ing, due to some comments on the board...yaaaayay.
Good luck at the MC...we did that for a few months and it was helpful...we mostly discussed relationship stuff...too reserved to discuss the sexual...ah well.
